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COUGAR or GROUND HOG?
When there’s a cougar to track and take down, a brave warrior will look forward to the hunt and be up for the challenge and the chase!  The appeal of bigger game and the harder to tame can be just what a warrior is seeking to prove and show his ingrained maleness. 

Sometimes though, he prefers to seek out instant gratification!  This comes by way of quicker hunting techniques and a much shorter chase time.  Little or no preplanning involved.  It stems from more of a divide and conquer, way of capture. 

What I mean women, is never forget the importance of the different types of chase and intrigue to your warrior.  Continue to keep the elements of pleasant surprise and humour in your relationship.  Lose these two tools of the trade and you may find over the course of time that passion begins to weaken.  Weigh it out for yourself.  Would you prefer him happy, loyal and interesting, or grumpy, wandering, and dull. 

On the other band!  It’s paramount to know when and where to maintain routine and when and where to toss it out like a spoiled refrigerator discovery.  Generally speaking, routine has it place of importance, just really try to avoid it in the intimacy department.  This goes for both women and warriors! 

There is a time and place for everything!  In a committed relationship, sex is always the right place.  It’s the time portion that gets tricky to handle.  You see, there is women’s time and then there is warrior’s time. 

Warrior’s time is usually located on the clock anywhere that they have five or ten minutes, when they feel the urgency to connect with their partner!  Women’s time is usually found on the clock anywhere that they have at least 28 to 30 minutes or more, when they feel the ‘warming up’ urgency to connect with their partner.  Outside of a rare set of circumstances, women and warriors should be nodding in agreement with this last statement. 

Warriors, you have the ‘built in’ ability to have your furnace turned up at the touch of a hand!  Here’s the thing!  Whether you realize it or not, a woman’s body comes with a preheat dial.  This specially designed feature requires that both the woman and the warrior be patient and creative while she has ‘no choice’ but to go through the necessary preheating process! 

Smart warriors utilize this intensifying time, just as one allows a good wine to breathe before it is poured and shared.  Go ahead!  Check out the terrain.  I guarantee if you follow the recipe for genuine romance that she isn’t going to go anywhere without you. 

Women grant few short cuts when it comes to the oven or sex!  Make no mistake!  There is no magic for women in microwave sex!  For her, there is only one oven temperature, ‘preheat before cooking’!  This never changes with, or without, the knowledge or assistance of her warrior. 

Warriors, if you can keep this thought on your back burner now, it will help you to grasp her sometimes reluctance to invitational microwave sex later. Please do not misunderstand.  Women are not opposed to quickly heating up leftovers.  As long as warriors understand, she just doesn’t have enough notice to whip up her best batch of enthusiasm or ‘hot out of the oven’ favourites that she craves so much! 

So you see, like everything else in a relationship, timing and compromise is everything!  If a warrior chooses ground hog, then expect the excitement of ground hog hunting!  If he hungers for the thrill of larger game like a wild cougar, then he should expect to prepare longer before hunting season will open up! 

Women will totally agree!  Sometimes one just doesn’t feel like wild cougar after a long hard day.  Sometimes, it’s just better for everyone if she simply hands him his gun and tells him, “Honey, tonight it is ground hog or nothing!”

Happy Hunting,
White Sparrow

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F.E.S. Fighting & Valentine's

Financial, Emotional, Sexual Fighting! Every single couple has what I refer to as their reoccurring fight. You know, the one that returns time after time. Both sides are paddling at the same time, but in opposite directions. When it is all stripped down, this reoccurring fight almost always falls under one of the above categories. Believe me, when this fight is playing out, it usually is the only thing that is getting stripped down! 

During such times, anger is certain to rear its smoking head. Although, we have all experienced, encountered, and witnessed anger, we may not all have thought to really look behind it. What I mean is that anger comes from fear! I will say this again. Anger, comes from fear! Fear of rejection, fear of abandonment, fear of intimacy, fear of dying, fear of inadequacy, fear of loss, and even fear of success. You get the idea, right?

I cannot stress enough the importance of trying to remember this when the gloves are off, so to speak! This is the perfect time to try and recollect oneself and ask what is it that I am afraid of? What is it that my partner is scared of? 

Now, please try to use this tip constructively and not as a weapon against one another! If you can hold on to the idea that anger is simply a mask to cover up a bigger issue, you will be one step closer to resolving this seemingly never-ending cycle. It also helps to empower you at such times!

The theory goes that each time this fight reappears that each side of the fence will get better at handling the situation, until it dissipates. Otherwise, it will continue to come around again and again. Let me reassure you. You're not the only couple that continues to stay on the merry-go-round. Some never hop off! Others work on it until they wear it down. Others again simply leave, period, because they seem too emotionally exhausted to ever go another round!

Ideally, sooner rather than later, one side or the other begins to bend a little and starts to compromise, or at least change the way they react. In other words: grows! Now, we all know that growth can never take place without a certain amount of change! Obviously, both sides must be willing to cultivate the art of stronger communication and negotiation!

Hey, I never said that any of this was easy! Take it from me, I understand hell on earth, but that's a whole other encyclopedia I prefer to leave buried. None of us ever get to become an adult without first having a past. That's just the way it is! From the words of John Berry's song, "if we're not fighting for love, than what are we fighting for?"

Now, this being February and St. Valentine's Day being right around the corner, I thought it might also be a good time to toss in one or two of the thousands of ideas that are out there to spice up your evening. Let's start off with something simple!

For one night, please change your routine! Set it up that both team players come out as winners in this equation. Start the day off early by doing something wonderfully pleasant, and unexpected. You pick! 

Warriors, please remember women are turned on via their ears! By what they hear and the tone in which they hear it! Women, please remember warriors are turned on via their eyes, by what they see and the tone in which they see it! This part has never changed since the beginning of time. It is the same now as it's always been. So, let's lose the frumpy look for the evening! Yes, I understand he should love you anyway, but it works both ways. We are always drawn closer to someone who looks good, smells good, and knows when to button up and open up! 

Warriors, if you can't come up with anything to write or say to her on your own, hit the card store before Valentine's. Leave her a card where she is sure to find it, but not anywhere she would expect it. Please don't leave it in the kitchen. Be creative! Now, you are smart warriors so I won't have to remind you to sign it first!

Women, pretend if you have to, for one night of the year, you  are convinced that you have the sexiest body on mother earth! Come on, it's only for one night! Then, dress up or down, whichever the case may be, for the most memorable Valentine's night that you will both remember for years to come! If, you can't do this in person, find a way to do it by phone, fax, or delivery service! Or, make arrangements to postpone your personal celebration until you can both be together! In most cases, this will work just as well.

If you are absolutely stumped out there for a Valentine's idea, here is mine! Personally, I am pretty easy to please! As a writer, something that would go the distance for me would be a very romantic hand written note. Place it in a bottle, add some wrapping or ribbon. Most importantly, dear warriors, please mean the romantic sentiment you express! Stay in or go out, for a light dinner. Now, add some candles or a fire, stir in plenty of privacy and kick off the evening by watching 'Message in a Bottle'! Now women, if I had a warrior for this special occasion, I guarantee I would do my best to make sure he would truly like what I was wearing! But, that's just me! 

You may be the more adventurous types, wanting to ski or go swimming together, depending on what part of the world you are in. Or, splash it up by sharing a round red heart shaped Jacuzzi somewhere neither of you has ever been! 

Warriors, truthfully, romance does not have to cost a lot of money! Romance, just has to be genuine, for it to be meaningful to most women. If this is not the case, then ladies, shame on us for not appreciating his efforts!

The sky is the limit! Whatever you decide, stay happy and healthy and at the very, very least enjoy an evening of tenderness and laughter! If romance is a total stranger around your home, then for goodness sake, accidentally on purpose, brush her hand and touch her heart! 

The hands of time are wound but once! With all the despair in the world, take time to honour the one you care about! Even if you spend the evening alone, dress the part, play the part, and manifest the feelings of evenings once shared, or evenings yet to be! 

-White Sparrow

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